Did i really deserve it?

i have this best friend, or was a best friend, we've been mates since we were lil' tods, and lately shes got together with this bloke, and it was lovely to see her so happy as she was never great with the whole relationship side of things.

Anyway i could see things were starting to change...

''I'm sorry, i'm not allowed to hang around with you, my bf says its for my own protection''

i was a lil confused by this but gradually accepted it

then she said ''oh ive had to delete all my contacts on my phone and computer, except you, its for my own protection'' i could tell he was starting to control her, being a best mate 'n' all i had to do something about it, so i told her how i felt with her new relationship... she just flew off the handles and walked away from me, and now she's deleted me from any kind of contact, she did speak to me the other day and said ''we can't be best mates anymore, he says its for my own protection''

it hurts that shes put him first....

Did i really deserve it?trojan

You didn't deserve it at all. You were hurt when you said things to her, and it's understandable. It does happen in life that we will let our best girlfriends take the back sear to a new/serious relationship - that's a given. But alienating them is another thing. You are right in saying that she is controlled by him. Unfortunately, most people in controlling situations will not get out until they realize that it is happening, get tired of it, or have some type of intervention. The only thing that you can do is let her know that you care for her and are concerned about her well-being, and she can come to you for anything - any time she needs you. Leave it like a gift on her doorstep, and when she is ready to open it, she will. In the meantime, try to live your life, and take care of yourself. Worrying about her is human and natural, but obsessing over it will do you no good (it is out of your control). I hope you have a good day, and take care! :)